Gifting something special to a loved one is always a lovely way of surprising someone. But a poorly chosen gift can offend the recipient or make them unhappy, so the gifts should always be well thought out, especially when given to a loved one, such as a family member, close friend, or partner. So here are some of the things that should not be on one’s shopping list when thinking of a gift for a loved one.

1. Lingerie
This one is a big no–not even as a joke because this can embarrass the recipient, which is unnecessary and negates the point of a gift. This may work as a present for a partner, but one must ensure the occasion is appropriate. For instance, lingerie can be gifted to a partner on Valentine’s Day. Also, ensure that it is given in an intimate setting and not in front of a large group. That said, lingerie is on top of the list of gifts that should be excluded for the holiday season.

2. Pets
Yes, they are adorable and lovable, but do they make for great presents? The answer is no. Pets are a huge responsibility, so just giving someone a surprise gift, which involves a lot of care, attention, and resources, may not be the best idea. Pets need constant care, and not to mention, their care may not be the most affordable for some people. Adopting an animal in need is one of the biggest ways to help these furries, but these adoptions should also be done responsibly and with much thought and plan. It is disappointing that a pet must be returned to the rescue center because the recipient cannot commit to such a big responsibility.

3. Souvenirs
A holiday gift should not involve any souvenirs from a trip one took somewhere. Also, if one would like to give a loved one a souvenir from a trip, then why wait till the holiday season to wrap it and give it to them? A holiday gift should be more personal and well thought out. A keychain or a T-shirt with a monument printed on it does not pass for a unique gift for a loved one.

4. Cash
While giving cash may seem practical, it does not come across as a sentimental gift. Usually, children get excited about getting $20 for holidays, but this may not be an exciting gift for adults. In fact, a gift card may be a better idea, in case there is no other gift one can think of. A gift card for a spa retreat, shopping site, or favorite store from which the person enjoys shopping can make a thoughtful gift. This shows that while one couldn’t decide what to give someone, they still considered the recipient’s interests.

5. Clothing
Holiday sweaters are a popular gift for loved ones, but maybe it’s time to change the tradition. Everyone has a personal style and preference, which may not match one’s own likes, so clothing as a gift can be a hit-and-miss. Also, choosing the right size is another hassle. If the size is incorrect, the recipient may need to get the clothing exchanged. So why go through that trouble when it can easily be avoided?

6. Gym membership
This can send a wrong message to the loved one. While this may be a well-intended gift, it can easily offend the recipient. They may take this as a sign that their lifestyle needs to change and is not approved by the one giving the gift. These gym memberships can also be costly, so if the recipient cannot use them wisely, it’s like giving away money. If a gym membership is on one’s mind as a potential gift, one must have a conversation with the recipient and ask them if this is an appropriate gift for them. Better yet, if the recipient already has a membership, one can buy an extended membership.

7. Practical gifts like kitchenware
Yes, buying practical gifts is a safe way to get someone what they need, but we’d still recommend avoiding it. Why? Because they are just too practical, as suggested! Let the recipient take care of things they need in their house or life. Where’s the magic in gifting if all one gives is a ceramic bowl they need because their pet will break one some weeks back? Let the holiday gifting be a little more cheery and fun. This involves knowing what the person wants and conversing with them to know the little things and finding the best presents for them, which brings them joy.

8. Expensive gifts like a luxury bag
The aim should not be to go all out with the present. It should add a little joy to their everyday lives and remind them of how loved they are by their friends and family. Another problem with expensive gifts is that if the recipient does not like them and the gift is not returnable, it’s a waste of money. For instance, a luxury bag might seem like a great gift. But what if the size is not right or it’s made of a material that one does not like using? Many people avoid buying from brands whose values and ethics don’t align with their own, so it’s best to avoid spending excessive money on something the recipient will not use.

One should always remember to start looking for a gift way before the holiday season so that they have enough time to plan it out and get the best one possible for all their loved ones!